She’s creating what she calls “The Opposite of OnlyFans” – a movement to help guys break free from porn addiction. But her story is incredibly personal. Heather Nielsen of FighttheBeast.org is the guest on today’s Manlihood ManCast
Heather took up the cause to help men get free from addiction, creating videos on TikTok and instagram where she shares advice and encouragement for men to get free from the grip of porn. Those videos have been seen by millions.
She’s an activist, speaker, entrepreneur, and single mom of three. What prompted her to take up role of the “no fap” crusader? She talks with Josh Hatcher about the heartbreaking story that motivated her to fight for change.
She’s researched this topic thoroughly and has some excellent perspectives and advice to help men see what they can do to FIGHT THE BEAST.
From school teacher, a fighter, to entrepreneur, Josh Tyler of Savage Gentlemen is building more than just a brand of gear for men – he’s a battle scarred philosopher with a message about masculinity in this time when manhood is so drastically misunderstood.
Josh Tyler of Savage Gentleman joins us on this edition of the Manlihood ManCast. Tyler was a professional MMA fighter and is the co-founder of Savage Gentlemen.
He talks about the balance of being tough and being tender, how he started his rapidly growing business for men, and how he keeps the fighting spirit that motivated him in the ring in his everyday life.
In the past few years, for a number of reasons, there’s been a dramatic increase in the number of families choosing to homeschool. Many had no choice but to opt into an “at home” model during the pandemic, and that created a number of situations where parents decided that home was the best place for their children to learn.
Today’s guest, Philip Mott is an expert, not only in education, but in homeschooling.
As a student in his early years Philip struggled. He was disengaged and did not take a liking to school in the least. Over the years as a reluctant learner, Philip started understanding more and more about the education system and diving into the reasons why children feel the way he did. This led him to believe that a systemic issue existed in the way we educate and relate to children. This sparked a passion in Philip that drove him to become a teacher himself. His vision is to help kids and parents take an alternative approach to education in order to have the best outcome for both student and parent. Philip is changing the way families look at education timelines and support while working with their kids.
Philip Mott is a writer, community facilitator and father. Philip holds a Bachelor’s of Science in Elementary Education. His focus is on empowering students to be self-directed learners and honoring the humanity of our children in all our interactions with them. Philip writes for newspapers, magazines and blogs covering alternative education approaches and homeschooling. He is also in the process of writing his first book. He is the creator and curator of philipmott.com – where he shares articles, essays, and other media about the ways adults and children interact.
In this episode, Josh Hatcher talks about the myth of masculine and feminine energies.
Men do not have a feminine side.
Creativity, nurturing, are not feminine qualities. They are human qualities. And men express them in a masculine way, as women express them in a feminine way.
Culture tries to view gender as fluid. But it is not.
Men are men. Women are women.
Understanding that it’s not wrong for a man to be more sensitive and gentle, or for a man to be more tough or aggressive is important.
Sensitivity and gentleness can be very masculine, and can be expressed by a man in a masculine way. We do not need to ascribe these kinds of qualities only to femininity.
Today’s guest is an LA County firefighter who previously served as an Army Ranger, with multiple deployments into Iraq and Afghanistan.
You can imagine that he’s “seen some stuff.”
But Nole Lilly’s personal traumas were even deeper, and he found himself in a dark place…
Nole currently lives in the mountains of Southern California, with his wife Heather and their 3 children. Nole and Heather have been married for 18 years. He has worked as a fireman with L.A. County Fire for the past 12 years. Prior to that, he served as a United States Army Ranger, deploying multiple times into Iraq and Afghanistan. Nole and Heather have experienced the death of two of their sons and their journey through that loss has shaped much of the people they have become today. Nole has also dealt with post-traumatic stress related to the loss of his sons and his time serving as a Ranger. As a fireman, Nole has continued to live and work in a world where exposure to trauma can be a very regular occurrence. From this experience, Nole felt called to start a podcast where he could share his experiences with others who are working through difficult times in life and also share the struggles and triumphs of other men that he admires.
Your purpose is really simple. It’s WHY you exist. WHY are you here?
Purpose doesn’t change
It was there before you were born, and it sticks with you for your whole life. Many people get focused on their purpose as a specific thing. Then, when something goes wrong, their identity and purpose are questioned in a moment of crisis.
Developing a personal mission statement
Putting your mission into words is a powerful act. It sets your intention. In conjunction with your purpose and your vision, it’s the equivalent of getting in the car and plugging in GPS Coordinates. How powerful would your life by if you had that kind of clarity in your destination?
Vision
Vision is where you are headed. It’s a goal, with a plan, centered around your purpose and your mission.
Your vision answers the question, “If I continue working toward my mission according to my purpose, where will I be in five to ten years?”
Values
We all have values. Even the unscrupulous among us have values.
To value something is to give it worth. There are things that either knowingly or un-knowingly have worth in our lives. They guide our decision-making. They affect our personal relationships. If we take the time to identify the core of those values, we can recognize them not just as gut-checks or feelings, but rather as guiding principles.
Josh Hatcher – Mission – Vision – Values
Purpose: To live a life of love and service to God, my family, and my community.
Mission: To use my talents and abilities to enrich and lead in the lives my family, my friends, my community, and all of those in my expanding circle of influence.
Vision: I will live as an ambassador of Christ and lead my family, while I find meaning and value in my work, while building passive income streams, and mentoring and encouraging men and women.
Because the world needs men to lead in their families and communities, and because so many men have struggled to understand their value, Manlihood exists to help men become better men.
Mission:
The Manlihood Mission is to Educate, Equip, and Entertain Men in an Engaging Way.
Vision:
The Manlihood vision is to create resources to educate and equip men, to foster a thriving community of men, where bonds of brotherhood and accountability form. We seek to help men be better fathers, husbands, leaders, friends. We want to build through Manlihood a financially sustainable architecture that can support itself, but also to incubate ideas and opportunities from within the Manlihood community that support our purpose and mission.
Values:
Men matter.
Family matters.
Integrity and Honor matter.
Personal Responsibility matters. (If it is to be, it’s up to me.)
Men thrive and grow in community and brotherhood with each other.
Truth is everywhere. Wisdom knows how to pick it out.
Men should value and respect women. (People should respect people.)
Perseverance, Self-control and Self-discipline are sacred and essential.
Words are powerful, and how we use them matters.
Leadership is steeped in influence and responsibility. (Everyone is a leader, and everyone should embrace and nurture that role.)
Helping men level up in their careers and their roles at home.
Nick Matiash is a husband, father, author, and leader of the Evolved Man; an initiative committed to helping men pair hard work with heart work in life and relationships.
Nick’s mission is to awaken men to be the most authentic version of themselves, and to truly understand the power of their emotions, healing and harnessing them, rather than stuffing them or being ruled by them.
Most men live lives of mediocrity. This is a call to something more.
Nick believes that as men can work through the barriers that they have set up in their hearts and minds, they’ll be better husbands, fathers, leaders, and be able to be better in their careers too.
We’re often held back by our deepest insecurities, and those insecurities often come from a very real place that we may have to fight to reclaim.
Nick also talks about the role of a husband and father as a leader, as a lover, and how to do that, we have to make the time in our life to take better care of our own mental and emotional health.
Men don’t like to think about their mental health or their emotions.
But it’s incredibly important for us to be able to lead from a position of strength and wholeness, not a position of brokenness and trauma and burnout.
Book Description: You wanted to be an astronaut, a doctor, or even the President of the United States.
When you were a kid your mind ran wild with imagination, daydreaming about all that you would accomplish and how amazing life would be. But at some point, the large life that you felt destined to live simply shrunk. It’s been minimized by experiences that have left you jaded, limitations that you’ve perceived, and people around you telling you to, “be realistic.”
The sky that you once thought to be the limit has been replaced by a painfully claustrophobic ceiling.
There’s more life to be lived, and there’s a part of you that knows it.
Whether it be in life, love, health or business…you feel like you’re missing something. Like you overslept on the day they were handing out all the rules to success and fulfillment and missed your chance to grab a copy. You feel trapped by a life that you didn’t sign up for, and crave the wide open space of possibility and potential that a younger you once knew.
This book is the guide that will open your world back up and allow you to truly live life on your terms. In these pages you will find:
• The unseen patterns of your mind that have caused you to run in place for years.
• The foolproof methods to bring those patterns into the light and have your way with them.
• A way to navigate your life with awareness once you’ve uncovered the obstacles that previously stood in your way.
You weren’t given a pulse and a heartbeat to waste on a life that you merely exist in. You are here to smile big, laugh loud, and love hard. You are here to make a lot of money with your natural set of gifts. You are here to create something that you are left in awe of.
This book is the pathway to all of that.
This book is the key that will unlock your mind to what’s possible.This book is for people who accidentally stumbled into a mediocre life—and are ready to move past it.
