Socrates – #ManCrushMonday
“The greatest way to live with honour in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” _ Socrates
Facebook Drama is for Girls: Stop arguing about stupid stuff
People use social media like they should use a private journal. Airing things out on the line that should never be expressed publicly. Men shouldn’t do this. Facebook Drama is for girls.
It’s easy to want to be right. Especially when someone is wrong on the internet.
There is nothing wrong with a good discussion – but sometimes it’s easy to get sucked in to arguments and “flame wars” about things that REALLY don’t matter. Does it REALLY matter that Joe Schmoe voted for Obama and still like him? Does it REALLY matter that someone wants $100 for a used cell phone that you think is only worth $50?
Stop arguing. It doesn’t build you up, them up – and it just wastes your time.
Tune in next week when we address: Stop begging for attention
John F. Kennedy – #ManCrushMonday
The courage of life is often a less dramatic spectacle than the courage of a final moment; but it is no less a magnificent mixture of triumph and tragedy. ~ John F. Kennedy
Facebook Drama is for Girls: Stop complaining about your relationships
People use social media like they should use a private journal. Airing things out on the line that should never be expressed publicly. Men shouldn’t do this. Facebook Drama is for girls.
Whether it be your romantic relationships, friendships, or family relationships – griping about these online are not going to make the problems that you have better. It might make you feel better to vent – but it doesn’t make the situation better.
I have heard men gripe about their children on facebook – and I have to ask – what happens in ten years when that kid gets a facebook account, and looks back through his dad’s old posts? Ouch!
What about the damage that can be done by airing things that should be in private to the rest of the world?
Man up. Deal with your relationship issues privately and with the person that needs to hear it. Do you NEED to talk to someone else about the situation? If you do – do that privately and in real life as well.
Tune in next week when we address: Stop Arguing about Stupid Stuff
George S. Patton – #ManCrushMonday
“Anyone in any walk of life who is content with mediocrity is untrue to himself and to American tradition.” George S. Patton Jr.
Facebook Drama is for Girls: Stop complaining about your job
People use social media like they should use a private journal. Airing things out on the line that should never be expressed publicly. Men shouldn’t do this. Facebook Drama is for girls.
Okay – that’s not fair. Girls shouldn’t do it either. But I’ll tell you this – it’s probably one of the least manly things a guy could do.
Let me encourage you NOT to complain about your job on facebook. Why? Because it WILL get back to your boss. If it doesn’t – keep in mind that most people get jobs from people they know. If your complaining is heard by Joe Schmoe – he’s not going to hire you if you ever want a job with him – because he knows you are a complainer!
If you have an issue with your job – fix it. Have a conversation with your boss, with your coworkers. Fix the problems that you can – and learn to DEAL WITH the problems you can’t fix. I can guarantee you complaining about it on a public forum will not fix it – or help you deal with it.
Facebook may be full of people venting their feelings – but it needs one less. You.
Tune in next week when we address: Stop complaining about your relationships
Randy Alcorn – #ManCrushMonday
“it’s my responsibility to cultivate the man in my son. I can’t be passive about that.” _ Randy Alcorn, Courageous
The Gatekeepers: Math: You influence your family finances
Men have a special role in their families that they often neglect. There are outside forces that influence your families – and what comes into your home needs to go through you. You are the keeper of the gate – the man who determines what influences are allowed to pass through.
I’ll be honest – I’m not the greatest at numbers or managing money – but my wife and I have a system that works – and she handles most of the money. We discuss it together, and we make decisions together – but the point is that we get it done.
What are your financial values? How will you spend your money? Do you have a budget? The way you manage your money will influence the way your children manage theirs. So setting an example now will make a difference later.
I’d encourage you to check out Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University, or some other similar program so that you can learn some financial management principles….
The Gatekeepers: Masks: You influence the authenticity of your family
Men have a special role in their families that they often neglect. There are outside forces that influence your families – and what comes into your home needs to go through you. You are the keeper of the gate – the man who determines what influences are allowed to pass through.
It’s easy for people to hide. It’s easy for people to create masks that cover up the truth of who they are. You should work hard to set the example for authenticity.
Lead your family to a place where they will represent themselves with integrity.
It means you need to be open with your kids about struggles – it means encouraging them to be open as well. There isn’t room for fake in a family.