B.B. King – The Letter #manlymusicfriday
He’s not called “The King” just because of his name… This guy really had some amazing talent!
He’s not called “The King” just because of his name… This guy really had some amazing talent!
As little kids rush off to school with their shiny new backpacks and lunch pails, Men, let’s take a look at our own education. Let’s invest in a bit of self-education to raise the bar in our own lives, learning new skills, useful information, and adding value to our lives.
So many men that I know say that they do not like to read.
This, my friends, is why manhood is in decline.
Well – it’s one of the reasons.
Take the time to EDUCATE yourself by reading books, magazines, blogs, etc that stretch your mind and challenge you.
If you struggle to read, maybe because of a learning disability or whatever – consider getting audio books, instructional videos, or podcasts.
But whatever the case may be – reading (or listening) is an extremely valuable tool. I’d encourage you to make a reading list of books that will help you grow in whatever skills or areas that you need in your life.
This is a great reason to have a mentor – someone who does what you do – but does it a few steps ahead of you. Ask them what books they read. Make your own list, and get hopping.
Quick tips for reading more.
1. Download the kindle app on your smartphone. Delete your games. During downtime, read instead of playing Candy Crush.
2. Put a stack of books in your bathroom.
3. Develop the habit of reading for a few minutes when you first wake up.
4. Join a group that is reading through a book together, or get a friend or two to commit to read a book with you over a six week period with a weekly debrief.
There are so many different ways to enter a conversation and start a conversation with someone you want to speak with that the options are unlimited. This shouldnt make you feel hopeless, but hopeful!
Conversations can go so many different ways, but you can steer them to go in a positive direction – and ultimately a direction that BENEFITS you, not hurt you.
Here are 3 Tips in starting a conversation with ANYONE of any sex, race, and creed.
1. Have an opener ready for the given situation
An opener? What is that?
An opener is a simple way that you are going to enter the conversation that displays you have social confidence and that there is a bit of intelligence behind the curtain – that someone “is at home” so to speak.
Some are doing this without even knowing what they are doing. My wife will do it all the time when we are out at the store. She is so good at talking to random strangers. She will see someone in the medical aisle, use the OBSERVATION approach (without knowing what she is going) and say something like “Oh, my son just had a cold and it works fantastic! Are your little ones getting this cold too?” Bam – my wife is locked for the next 15-20 minutes. What did she do besides the observation opener? Read number 2.
2. Quickly make the conversation/question about them
At this phase of the conversation, now is not the time to be asking questions that will get one word answers. Those come off as awkward and will create dead space. Dead space = bad. Dead space shows you lack social status and you are TRYING to hard. Having them talk about themselves transitions that. What is really funny was when I was working this stuff out, I would ask a one word answer question, then try to follow it up with an observational question to TRY to get them talking – forget it! You will lose interest almost immediately with one word answer type questions.
Want to be the best conversationalist? Learn how to get someone to talk about themselves.
3. Listen and Respond.
There was some truth about dating, relationships, and conversations that you could have taken away from the Will Smith movie, HITCH. That is when you are engaging in a conversation “listen and respond.” I know that sounds so simple, but it is so hard to do. Listen to what they are saying in the conversation, then respond intellegently, sarcastically, or intrigued. You can really demonstrate your personality in your responses as well. Getting them to laugh will draw instant likability as well. Dont be afraid to share your emotions about a certain topic – mirror them to see what is going to be appropriate – if they are sad – respond/mirror with sympathy. If they are excited – be excited! Mirroring is highly effective and will definitely help you increase your likability in your conversation.
3.5 Have fun.
This one goes along with anything you are working on within yourself – Have fun – for goodness sake have fun, would ya? Lighten up. You get shot down, or it feels awkward – turn and smile – even laugh about a fail. Tell your friends and if they dont pick on you about it – make new friends that will laugh WITH you. Go out and have some fun – this world is too big to be serious all the time.
Until next time!
Andrew G. Wright Sr.
You can get more helpful tips from Andrew in his book, “How To Talk To Anyone!” Andrew shares his wisdom of conversations that he has learned while in the field of life. Struggling with a disability, Andrew had to pay extra attention to conversations and social metrics – if anyone can help you with social anxiety and talking with others – Andrew can.
How about a little Montgomery Gentry? We can handle a little country – if it’s GOOD country…
Men (and women)
I write to you on this blog and through my books as a form of communication. My communication is simple and direct. In addition, it is filled with personal experiences.
Perhaps I should give you a brief history of myself.
I am hard of hearing and communication is very difficult for me. I wear a hearing aid (that unfortunately only works half the time if I am facing people.) Over the last 20 years, I lost some 70% of my hearing abilities through natural causes and will tell you it has only made my life better! Thats right, it made it better. I have come to realize my purpose on this earth is to give people hope and to provide information to better improve THEIR lives through my struggles.
I have put out several books on self esteem – and most recently, “How to Talk to Anyone” – the advice is my own. I provide you useful tips and tricks to make you FLOURISH in society because you have all your senses. My tricks are not for someone with a disability – but battle tested in the battlefield of life. As you know, it doesnt matter if you have everything or little – this world and society could care a less if you succeed. There are no gimmie points shelled out to me because I am hard of hearing – just sets me back as an obstacle.
So – I ask you to read these books and know this knowledge and wisdom comes from years in the field of life. Learn them – utilize the techniques and you will succeed. I can tell you they work! I am a successful salesman and found the women of my dreams. I have three amazing kids and more self confidence than I could have ever dreamed I would have.
You can have it and so much more, folks! Read the books and apply to your life. You will see a drastic change.
Kindest regards,
Andrew Wright
SELF -ESTEEM – 10 Things You Can Do to DRASTICALLY Improve Your Confidence and Love Yourself
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How to Talk to Anyone
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As little kids rush off to school with their shiny new backpacks and lunch pails, Men, let’s take a look at our own education. Let’s invest in a bit of self-education to raise the bar in our own lives, learning new skills, useful information, and adding value to our lives.
Don’t confuse natural talents with skills.
Natural talents are things you are naturally good at doing. They can be refined and sharpened with hard work and practice, but the basic intuitive abilities are there.
A skill is learned, practiced, and developed. Natural talents may indicate what skills you would be best suited for, but a skill is not hard-wired.
For example – you may be a naturally talented singer, and you may work hard to develop that talent, and become great at it.
You might not know, though, how to build a guitar from scratch. So maybe, you decide this is a skill you would like to learn.
Is there a skill you want to add to your utility belt? Follow this checklist to turn it from an idea to an accomplishment.
1. Identify a skill that you have the natural capacity to learn. If you are tone deaf, you probably shouldn’t try to become a singer. However, if you have hands, you can learn to build. If you can walk, you can learn to run.
2. Research your skill. My dad always told me that you can learn anything you want to know in a book. Now that my dad has entered the digital age, he’s amended his statement to say that you can learn anything you want to know from Google. And he’s right. Want to learn a skill? Find out WHAT you need to learn – just do a simple google search, identify websites, videos, books, tutorials, etc. that will give you the information that you need.
3. Make a plan. “Failure to plan is planning to fail.” Take the time to sketch out a plan, a schedule, and goals for the process of learning your skill. That includes time to go through the research you’ve collected, time to practice it yourself, and people that you may need to connect with for mentorship or advice.
4. Execute your plan. Information without application is useless data. Take the information that you’ve assembled, and the plan you’ve sketched out – and actually do it. You can SAY you want to build a chicken coop – but until you build it – you are not a chicken farmer. You can’t learn a new skill without implementing that learning. Chances are – it’s fear of failure that stops you from actually executing the plan. And as ANY learner can tell you – sometimes failure is part of that learning process. Be prepared to take the risks.
Hello all! I just wanted to let you know about a book I wrote that is currently being offered for free till the end of the day.
Its called, “How to Talk to Anyone”
As a person that is hard of hearing, I have come to learn some tricks of the trade in communicating with virtually anyone in an effective manner. I have been able to win people over, start random conversations, and be extremely confident that the interaction is going to go favorable.
If you are looking to improve your skills, I would love for you to take advantage of this book and the free promotion. I have included real world scenarios as well.
Get approach anxiety with the opposite sex? Male or female? I have answers.
Have a problem in communicating with co-workers or people of authority? I have the answer and experience as a business to business salesman to help you out.
How about those weird situations where there is dead space after you ask an initial question? Can you say “Big gulps, huh? WELP see ya later!” Type of scenario? I can help you move passed that and into them talking about themselves so much that they look at you as the “best listener they have ever met.”
Take advantage of this. I would love your feedback as well! Thanks guys!
Kindest regards,
Andrew Wright
Download the book here! Click on the book cover below, or simply copy and paste the link into the browser!
https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyone-Andrew-Wright-ebook/dp/B01LR9AATS/ref=sr_1_7?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1473713117&sr=1-7&keywords=andrew+wright
As little kids rush off to school with their shiny new backpacks and lunch pails, Men, let’s take a look at our own education. Let’s invest in a bit of self-education to raise the bar in our own lives, learning new skills, useful information, and adding value to our lives.
It’s important to understand that learning isn’t supposed to be limited to the halls of education. You, as a man, are responsible to teach yourself. To pursue knowledge.
Graduation may have felt like a release from the shackles of the classroom, but if we want to grow as a man, if we want to succeed, we need to consider ourselves lifelong learners.
Hopefully you learned to read, and learned to research, and learned the tools that you need to be able to expand your own education from now till you’re dead.
A man who cannot learn anything knew is destined to fail and fall short.
So let’s take some inventory, and identify what the next steps are in our own self-education.
This is one of those songs that is a manly declaration for any boys who were abandoned by their own dads.
Let’s NEVER let anyone sing this song about us!
Even if you can’t work it out with mom – do whatever you can to be dad to your kids.