Driving down Route 219 I had to take my foot off the gas because my eyes were welling up with tears. I’m generally not a cusser.
I screamed an obscenity in agreement with the growling howl of “Drowning” as Brandon Coleman of The Red Clay Strays sings:
Somebody help me I’m
Drowning
I can’t tread much longer I’m
Fighting
To keep my head above the water
So throw me a line, show me a sign
Everything’ll be alright
I’ve felt that. Every man has felt that.
If they say they haven’t felt it, they’re in a dangerous place, because they’re lying to themselves, or because maybe they just haven’t hit that hard part of life yet.
This past year, I discovered The Red Clay Strays on Spotify.
I instantly resonated with the rock and roller meets what country-music-should-have-always-been sound, and other than Podcasts, praise and worship music that I’m learning for church, and Mark Kroos and the Forest Floor, the only music I’ve listened to this past year has been The Red Clay Strays. I’m confident that 60 percent of their Spotify revenues are probably from my plays.
Imagine my elation when I see the new album had dropped.
Made By These Moments kicks off with Disaster, a blistering bluesy tune that doesn’t betray their signature style in the least. And then I see some familiar tracks that I’ve heard before, released previously as an EP. They belong here on this full album.
“Wanna Be Loved” is honestly the cry of every man.
If you are a woman reading this review, and you want to know what’s going on in your man’s head when he stops numbing himself enough to feel – this is what he’s thinking.
I’ve been afraid
And I’ve been alone
Sometimes I need someone to pick up the phone
I’m tired of the leaving
I need a home
Oh, I just wanna be loved
I just wanna be loved
Can you tell me I’m worthy or important?
Am I working hard enough?
Oh, I just wanna be loved
I just wanna be loved
And I want someone to want me
I want somebody there
And I need someone to need me
I need someone who cares
“Wanna Be Loved” – The Red Clay Strays
Men, we may not have the vocabulary to put it into words – but if we’re honest, this is what we’re feeling.
So much of this album speaks to that ache, that fear, that turmoil.
And the past year of my life, before the album even came out, while listening to The Red Clay Strays older songs, I was going through a lot of these feelings.
In my own life, I’ve had to fight like hell against my own devils. I had to face my pain head on and work through it. I had to talk about hard things. I had to look deep into my past and address the reasons that I think the way I do. I had to forgive people that hurt me. I had to forgive myself for the way that I’ve hurt others. I had to seek forgiveness from people I’ve hurt. It’s been a battle, with a constant voice in my head telling me to shove a donut or a slice of pizza in my face to make the pain go away – or to scroll TikTok a little longer for a dopamine hit. And I’ve been numbing like that with one thing or another for most of my life. And I’ve watched as my family and the people I love have suffered.
So when “Devil in My Ear” came over the speakers, you can bet I uttered some more of those words of agreement.
These guys get me.
Why, why, why can’t I seem to hold my head up high?
It must be the devil in my ear
I’m not good enough, so what’s the use?
Self-medicate and self-abuse
It must be the devil in my ear
I try to push ’em all away
But those thoughts they stick around
Thrivin’ on my pain and they keep bringin’ me down
I pray to God for peace of mind, for the gloom to disappear
I can’t find a cause to live with the devil in my ear
Why, why, why can’t I seem to fall asleep at night?
It must be the devil in my head
Depression and anxiety
I can’t shake the grip that they’ve got on me
I know the devil’s gotten in my brain
I try to push ’em all away
But those thoughts they stick around
Thrivin’ on my pain and they keep bringin’ me down
I pray to God for peace of mind, for the gloom to disappear
I can’t find a cause to live with the devil in my ear
Why, why, why can’t I seem to hold my head up high?
It must be the devil in my ear
I don’t wanna die, I wanna live
But my life can’t go on like this
And not another day with the devil in my ear
Well, not another day with the devil in my ear
Not another day with the devil in my ear
“Devil in my ear ” – The Red Clay Strays
These guys have been spying on me.
Seriously. It’s music that really speaks to my soul, not just lyrically, but in that Alabama, sweat-soaked, Sunday-Night-Revival-Service kind of way.
I can listen to the music and clearly identify the influences, Johnny Cash, Waylon Jennings, Lynyrd Skynryd, Aerosmith, The Alabama Shakes, and Chris Stapleton have all scratched their autographs into the side of The Red Clay Strays sound, but I can hear some other influences that others might not recognize. I can hear the pentecostal church. I can hear mama’s faithful prayers. I can hear anxiety attacks. I can hear desperation. I can hear the sounds of gospel preaching and bar fights and campfires and ghost stories.
This isn’t just music. This is soul.
The blurb on the back of the album cover sums up the message well:
“The hardships and uncertainties in life are something that can never be comprehended by any person. We will never fully understand why we chose to hurt each other or why bad things happen to good people day after day. This iniquitous reality paired with the unbearable weight of the world will quickly leave you feeling alone, powerless and without hope. However one thing we do know for certain is that holding on to hope and keeping your faith in God is the only way to prevail through life’s trials and injustices. By doing this we come to the realization that we are not alone in this battle and that the difficult times of which we were certain would destroy us become the key moments in our lives that actually makes us stronger. Much like a diamond cannot exist without first being exposed to extremely high temperatures and a pressure that is 50,000 times the pressure on the surface of the earth. There is always achievement after endurance. This album is the direct result of persevering through the many difficult times we ourselves have faced both personally and as a band. Made by These Moments shines a light on overcoming the battles we face in life like loneliness, depression, and hopelessness. We hope you recognize that our pain has purpose.”
I’d LOVE to get some of the guys from the band that write these songs on the podcast here at Manlihood. If anyone reading this has a connection, let me know! Thanks!
When you think about London, you probably imagine iconic landmarks, lively markets, and those charming red buses cruising around. But did you know that tucked away in this bustling city is another gem worth exploring?
Yep, we’re talking about London’s vibrant tattoo scene! Whether you’re a tattoo lover or just curious about getting your first piece, visiting a tattoo parlour in London is an experience you won’t want to miss. It’s not just about getting some ink; it’s about diving into a world of incredible artistry, rich history, and personal expression.
So, let’s explore why booking that appointment at a London tattoo parlour is such an amazing idea!
World-Class Artists
London is home to some of the world’s most talented tattoo artists. The city’s tattoo parlors boast a roster of artists who have honed their craft to perfection, each bringing their unique style and expertise to the table. Whether you’re looking for intricate line work, bold traditional pieces, realistic portraits, or vibrant neo-traditional designs, you’ll find an artist in London who can bring your vision to life.
Many of these artists are internationally recognized, often featuring in tattoo conventions around the world and winning prestigious awards. Their portfolios are not just impressive but awe-inspiring, showcasing a range of styles and techniques that highlight their versatility and skill.
When you visit a London tattoo parlour, you’re not just getting a tattoo; you’re receiving a piece of art created by some of the best in the business. Peek at this page theoldstablestattoo.co.uk to unravel more!
Personalized Experience
Visiting a tattoo parlour in London is not a one-size-fits-all experience. Tattoo artists here take the time to get to know you, understand your story, and work with you to create a design that is deeply personal and meaningful. This personalized approach ensures that your tattoo is not just a beautiful piece of art but a reflection of your unique journey and identity. Read more here.
Diverse and Inclusive Environment
One of the most remarkable aspects of London’s tattoo scene is its diversity and inclusivity. London is a melting pot of cultures, and this diversity is beautifully reflected in its tattoo parlours. You’ll find artists from various backgrounds, each bringing their unique cultural influences into their work. This cultural blend results in a rich tapestry of tattoo styles and designs that cater to a wide range of tastes and preferences.
Moreover, London’s tattoo parlours are known for their welcoming and inclusive atmosphere. Whether you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, a person of colour, or someone with unique needs or preferences, you’ll find a parlour that respects and celebrates your individuality. This inclusive environment ensures that everyone feels comfortable and valued, making the tattooing experience in London truly special.
Cutting-Edge Hygiene and Safety Standards
In a city as progressive as London, it’s no surprise that tattoo parlours adhere to some of the highest hygiene and safety standards in the industry.
The importance of a clean and safe environment cannot be overstated when it comes to tattooing. London’s tattoo parlors are known for their meticulous attention to hygiene, using state-of-the-art equipment, sterile techniques, and high-quality materials to ensure the safety and well-being of their clients.
Artists in London are also well-versed in aftercare procedures, providing you with detailed instructions to ensure your tattoo heals properly and looks its best. This commitment to safety and professionalism gives you peace of mind, allowing you to focus on the excitement of getting your new tattoo.
Exploring the Vibrant Neighbourhoods
Getting a tattoo in London is also an opportunity to explore the city’s vibrant neighbourhoods. Tattoo parlours are often located in some of the most eclectic and dynamic parts of the city, each with its unique charm and character. From the artistic streets of Shoreditch to the historic alleys of Camden, you’ll find yourself immersed in a cultural adventure.
These neighbourhoods are brimming with independent shops, trendy cafes, and fascinating street art, providing the perfect backdrop for your tattoo journey. You can spend the day exploring local markets, trying delicious food, and soaking in the creative atmosphere before heading to your tattoo appointment.
This makes the entire experience of getting a tattoo in London not just about the tattoo itself but a memorable day out in one of the world’s most exciting cities. Find out more here https://lithub.com/its-never-too-late-for-your-first-tattoo/.
A Hub for Tattoo Conventions and Events
London is a major hub for tattoo conventions and events, attracting artists and enthusiasts from all over the world. Events like the London Tattoo Convention are renowned for their scale and prestige, offering a platform for artists to showcase their work and for enthusiasts to explore the latest trends in the tattoo world.
Attending a tattoo convention in London is an experience. You get to witness live tattooing, meet artists, attend workshops, and immerse yourself in the vibrant tattoo community. Even if you’re just visiting a parlour for a tattoo, being in a city that hosts such significant events adds an extra layer of excitement and energy to your experience.
John Delony helps his listeners through many different issues, including fatherhood, and dealing with divorce
John Delony is a favorite podcast here at Manlihood. He deals with mental health issues and struggles in a way that is compassionate, but also no nonsense. We need more Dr. John Delony’s in the world.
Matt Walsh on the Joe Rogan Podcast | What is a Woman?
This podcast episode I’m sure will resonate and frustrate many people in 2022. But it illustrates a problem that needs to be addressed. Our world has gone completely mad. Matt Walsh may not be the most popular guy on the planet, but he calls out the nonsense in a way that is logical.
Matt Walsh is a political commentator, author, filmmaker, and host of “The Matt Walsh Podcast.” Stream his new documentary “What is a Woman?” at www.dailywire.com.
Masculine Psychology podcast with David Tian | Self-Criticism vs. Self-Acceptance
David Tian has a great approach to psychology as it pertains to men. This episode talks abotu finding the balance between accepting yourself, and criticizing yourself.
Sathiya Sam on Order of Man | Beating Porn for Good
Ryan Michler’s work at Order of Man is phenomenal, and we share it a lot because it’s relevant and helpful.
This episode with Sathiya Sam talks about breaking pornography addiction. It’s a problem many men struggle with, and few talk about.
Senator Josh Hawley on the Jordan B. Peterson Podcast | Men and the Conservative Vision
When it comes to politics, there is so much vitriol that it’s difficult to stomach somedays. Regardless of whether or not you consider yourself a conservative, and regardless of whether or not you “like” Josh Hawley, this episode will help you understand why conservatives like myself think the way we do.
Dave Mustaine on Rogan
This is an older episode from back in August, but I just recently listened to it. Mustaine is a rock icon, helped to found Metallica, then went on to form Megadeth and become one of the greatest heavy metal bands in history. He also talks about his faith, his family, and his perspective on the world.
Ryan Michler and his son Brecken talk about their moose hunt on the Order of Man Podcast
This episode is very different than Ryan’s other episodes at Order of Man – as he and his son recount their Moose Hunting adventure. I love the way Ryan and his son interact and joke with each other, and the story is entertaining and enriching.
Josh Hatcher of Manlihood appeared on one of the introductory episodes of The Significant Man Podcast with Warren Peterson this week. Josh talks about the importance and the value of masculinity in today’s culture, talks about properly processing emotions and becoming more emotionally resillient. He tells some of his story, how faith and becoming a man helped him overcome bullying and many other issues in life.
Warren Peterson is the Founder of the Significant Man movement, and the author of several books for men. He discusses masculinity within the context of faith, and holds an annual Men’s retreat in the Colorado Rockies.
Listen to this episode, and subscribe the Significant Man RECHARGE podcast!
Until July 4, 2021, Manlihood is offering our Stars and Stripes and Don’t Tread Bro patriotic t-shirts and sweatshirts, starting at $17.76
We will NOT be offering these shirts after July 4th – so if you want one, you’ll need to get it now!
Stars and Stripes
These Manlihood Patriotic shirts feature a Stars and Stripes version of our logo, and is available in multiple styles, colors, and garment options, with a basic T-Shirt starting out at $17.76
Don’t Tread on Me Shirt
These Manlihood shirts feature the Gadsden Rattler with the words “Don’t Tread Bro!” on the back!
Don’t miss out on this offer before we pull the plug on the Fourth of July!
I sent an email to a bunch of men I respected to get their thoughts. Here’s what it said.
I’ve got a big crazy idea. Not sure what your thoughts are – or if you are interested in partnering with me on it –
But it will definitely need a TEAM to make it work.
Have you ever picked up a copy of GQ or Men’s Health? I LIKE those magazines – except they’re full of a lot of advice that isn’t exactly GOOD advice.
I’d really like to create a blog – and if you’ve received this email – it’s because I think that you have an area of expertise that could really offer a lot – and I think you’re a “manly man”. The people to whom I’ve sent this email also represent a broad scope of styles, and philosophies (while all maintaining a missional christian ethic)
I think there is a generation of “emerging” men who have no idea what it means to be a “gentleman” – in areas of business, relationships, spirituality, family, and even recreation. “Masculinity” is typically a lesson that dad’s teach sons – but I think that we could really help “define” and invest in (and even entertain) men with our insights and our unique qualifications.
Sent March 2012
It took a little over a year for that idea to turn into Manlihood.com And it’s taken six years for Manlihood to become what it is today!
Since we started, we’ve interacted with thousands of men.
We’ve seen many men reignite a passion to live as better men. And it’s brought a joy and sense of mission to my life. I’m so grateful for all of you that have read, shared, and participate in making Manlihood great!
Our Most Read Blog Posts
Looking back, we’ve had a lot of posts that have pulled in some interesting discussion, and made an impact.
So what is the Manlihood vision for personal development for men?
Here’s a look at our Manlihood Purpose / Mission / Vision / Values
Purpose:
Because the world needs men to lead in their families and communities, and because so many men have struggled to understand their value, Manlihood exists to help men become better men.
Mission:
The Manlihood Mission is to Educate, Equip, and Entertain Men in an Engaging Way.
Vision:
The Manlihood vision is to create resources to educate and equip men, to foster a thriving community of men, where bonds of brotherhood and accountability form. We seek to help men be better fathers, husbands, leaders, friends. We want to build through Manlihood a financially sustainable architecture that can support itself, but also to incubate ideas and opportunities from within the Manlihood community that support our purpose and mission.
Values:
Men matter.
Family matters.
Integrity and Honor matter.
Personal Responsibility matters. (If it is to be, it’s up to me.)
Men thrive and grow in community and brotherhood with each other.
Truth is everywhere. Wisdom knows how to pick it out.
Men should value and respect women. (People should respect people.)
Perseverance, Self-control and Self-discipline are sacred and essential.
Words are powerful, and how we use them matters.
Leadership is steeped in influence and responsibility. (Everyone is a leader, and everyone should embrace and nurture that role.)
Thank you again so much for supporting the mission of Manlihood! Please keep reading, commenting, sharing and telling your friends!
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