In this compelling episode of the Manlihood ManCast, host Josh Hatcher sits down with addiction recovery expert, J. K. Amezi. Discussing the often-taboo topic of overcoming pornography addiction, the two men delve into a deep and inspiring conversation about this prevalent issue in men’s lives. Amezi shares about his own struggles and illuminates the path to freedom and self-love. From the process of self-discovery to the importance of discipline, vulnerability and self-image in overcoming addictive behaviors, this interview is packed with powerful insights and offers hope to anyone struggling with pornography addiction.
Introducing J.K. Emezi, a seasoned Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery Coach and the visionary CEO behind Elevated Recovery (www.elevatedrecovery.org). In our latest podcast episode, J.K. takes center stage as a guiding force, sharing insights from his wealth of experience in steering high-achieving men and their partners through the complexities of compulsive behaviors.
With a proven track record, J.K. has been a beacon of support, helping individuals navigate challenges such as serial affairs, porn addiction, and engagement with prostitutes. His expertise has shielded many from the potential pitfalls of divorce, job loss, sexual harassment litigation, and chronic underachievement.
Drawing from 11 years as a high-achieving sales and recruiting professional, J.K. has a unique perspective on building success from the ground up. His diverse clientele includes top-tier professionals from various fields and over 20 countries, showcasing the global impact of his work.
Elevated Recovery, under J.K.’s leadership, has earned endorsements from therapists, mental health professionals, marriage counselors, and relationship experts worldwide. At the core of his contributions is “The Porn Reboot System,” a transformative online addiction recovery course for sex and porn addiction that has received widespread acclaim.
Join us in the podcast episode as we delve into J.K. Emezi’s insights, exploring the transformative journey to reclaiming lives from the grip of addiction and unlocking full potential.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
Your porn habit doesn’t have to define you….
01:06 Join the Manlihood Man Cave
If you want to go deeper… Into this, I want to encourage you to join the Manlihood Man Cave, which is our private Facebook group….
01:43 Overcoming Pornography Addiction
So one of the things that we talk about here at Manlihood again is men becoming even better men….
02:35 Interview with J. K. Amezi
JK, it’s great to have you on the show, man….
03:02 The Role of Fitness and Self-Image
And, you know, when you start working out, um, I remember like years ago, I was doing it, honestly, for the most superficial reasons….
04:14 Understanding the Nature of Addiction
why don’t you talk to our guests a little bit about who you are and the work that you’re doing, man?…
08:10 The Impact of High-Speed Internet Pornography
Do you know that if you are a man who is alive today and sexually active, and who watches pornography to any degree, you have seen more naked people having sex than every single one of your ancestors who ever existed….
11:24 The Role of Spirituality in Recovery
Everybody, once they get to a certain point in what we call their reboots, I’ll get into why we call it reboot and not recovery, has some sort of reconnection with the spiritual aspect of their life….
13:38 The Struggle with Addiction
You, you mentioned something in there, and I know that in my battle it was definitely part of it, is that constant feeling that you were fighting it, right?…
17:05 The Importance of Self-Compassion in Recovery
And this is so powerful and this is why I prefer That men work with their brain and face this because it allows you to build self compassion towards yourself….
21:50 J. K. Amezi’s Personal Journey
Like, like what, what led you to that place?…
27:02 The Challenge of Staying Away from Pornography
All I have to say is, try staying away from pornography for just 30 days….
28:45 Debunking Myths and Understanding the Impact of Pornography
That’s only one study and it’s been debunked….
29:35 Personal Struggles and the Need for Balance
Josh, it doesn’t matter, like, for you it may be with food….
30:05 Identifying Areas of Life Lacking Control
So, identify the area in your life that you don’t have control….
30:42 The Struggles of Balancing Work and Personal Life
I recently started, uh, a new career and I’m, I work from home, so I’m, you know, my office is just upstairs….
32:02 The Concept of Working in Seasons
But the issue I find that a lot of men have is that they don’t understand the concept of working in seasons….
35:01 The Impact of Compulsive Behavior on Success
Well first of all, um… One of the reasons why we are probably the most successful, And by successful I mean we have the most clients, we’ve been around the longest, and we help men end their behavior within two years, is because… We are patient, and I want those of you listening to know that if you’re thinking of reaching out or speaking to somebody, there’s a lot of shame….
36:02 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Compassion
You have to learn to be self compassionate….
36:21 Educating Yourself About Your Compulsive Behavior
So for those of you who are thinking to reach out, the first thing I would say is educate yourself….
37:49 The Journey to Overcoming Compulsive Behavior
One thing I want to make clear, and Josh I didn’t share this, was that I struggled with everything in life….
56:02 The Importance of Self-Love and Self-Image
I I’ll just tell him to love himself more….
57:42 Advice for Men and Final Thoughts
Change your self image by changing your self talk….
More from JK Emezi: https://elevatedrecovery.org/