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Josh Hatcher

About Josh Hatcher

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Josh Hatcher is the founder of Manlihood.com , and is a poet, author, speaker, musician, and owns a creative marketing solutions company, Hatcher Media. Get Josh's Books at the Manlihood Store or Amazon.

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Love & Junk

Love and Junk – She doesn’t HAVE to love you.

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February – thanks to St. Valentine’s Day – it’s filled with hearts and doilies and talk of love.
Funny how love can turn a big, hairy man into a blubbering pile of conversation hearts and rose petals, right?



You may have the woman of your dreams all lined up. She might even think you are pretty cool – maybe even date you for a little while…

But let’s make something clear – she doesn’t HAVE to love you. You cannot force someone to love you. As much as love is a choice for YOU – it’s a choice for HER.

When you chose to tell her that you love her, and to show her that you love her – obviously, you hope that she wants to give you love in return. But if you are giving that love with the goal of obligating her to love you – you are missing the point.

She does not HAVE to love you.

You cannot MAKE her love you.

All you can do is show her who you are, how you feel, and how you value her. If she reciprocates, it can be a beautiful thing. But never, ever, assume that you are OWED love in return. Love doesn’t demand reciprocation.

Mumford and Sons – Hopeless Wanderer #manlymusicfriday

I seriously can’t get enough Mumford and Sons. While there new stuff sounds a little more like Coldplay, and a little less like grandpa’s music – I still like it too.
Marcus and the crew sing with gusto and passion – and if you aren’t going to sing with gusto and passion, why sing at all?

 

Love & Junk

Love and Junk – Love requires actions AND words

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February – thanks to St. Valentine’s Day – it’s filled with hearts and doilies and talk of love.
Funny how love can turn a big, hairy man into a blubbering pile of conversation hearts and rose petals, right?



There’s a big stigma in Hollywood surrounding the words “I love you.” They make a really big deal about those words, and when they are supposed to be said. As a result – I think we’ve sanctified those words a little too much…. we’ve made them holy, and then we get the idea that the words themselves define what love is,

The truth is – those words mean NOTHING if they aren’t followed up with action.

“I love you” and yet, I’ll disrespect your body for my own pleasure.
“I love you” and yet, I won’t commit to you.  I won’t marry you, because I don’t think I love you permanently.
“I love you” and yet – I’ll chew your face off if you don’t do something right.
“I love you” and yet – I still love those other hot women on my computer screen.


If you really love someone, it has to be more than just words. It has to be words AND action.

And the words DO matter – why would you love someone and never tell them?  Make sure to tell the people in your life that you love them (your wife, your kids, your parents, even your friends.) I don’t want anyone to ever wonder if I did love them. I want them to know it, not just because I said it, but because I showed it with my actions.

 

Phillip Phillips – Home #manlymusicfriday

Considering that Phillip Phillips made it all the way through the American Idol competition with a horrible kidney infection – we’re gonna go ahead and count him as manly for our #manlymusicfriday

Love & Junk

Love and Junk – Love isn’t an emotion

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February – thanks to St. Valentine’s Day – it’s filled with hearts and doilies and talk of love.
Funny how love can turn a big, hairy man into a blubbering pile of conversation hearts and rose petals, right?

 

Your heart beats out of your chest. Blood starts pumping to your face, to your groin. Your mouth dries up – or worse- starts salivating. You can’t concentrate, you can’t eat, you can’t sleep. Oh – what love does.

Because of the emotions that seem to flood those young relationships – it’s easy to see why people associate those FEELINGS with love.


I firmly believe that love is a choice. It’s not how you feel. In 10  years, that beautiful young bride you married will be a little wrinklier, and those butterflies in your gut might feel more like bricks… it doesn’t mean love is any less powerful or beautiful, but it’s definitely not as emotional.  In fact – after almost 18 years of marriage, I can tell you – that I love her more everyday. Sometimes, those emotions are still there – sometimes – it’s very hard choice to make.

Don’t get confused about the nature of love, or you’ll find yourself giving up on it way too early.

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