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Duck Tape (duct tape) Manhood
Yesterday I had to give my pet duck away. I needed to seal go the box and grabbed a roll of Duck Tape brand duct tape… and sent him off to his new home.
Duct tape is a powerful substance that can fix anything. I’m most enamored though, by its endurance.
In the past year, I have watched several men’s endurance be stretched and snap… as they walk away from commitments they should be keeping. Lots of excuses and blame-shifting… which they would say are valid reasons… and to be fair… I am not them, and I am not in a position to judge. What I will say, is that it makes me think a lot about the “sticky” men that I know… and what I can learn from them.
1. Love is always a choice.
You don’t fall in or out of it.. you choose to do it.
2. I am wrong.
No one ever wants to say or think it. But the truth is… we are often the source of the problem. When is the last time you were wrong? Did you communicate that with genuine regret? Did you make it right?
3. I make my own path.
Sure you do. So make sure you are going the right way on it. The right way usually is the hardest.
4. Emotions are not guides.
They are gauges that measure your attitude and direction. Pick your path on principle, not feelings. Don’t “follow your heart” because sometimes it lies.
Leadership – What is it?
I’ve been through a lot of leadership training over the years… When I was in school, I attended several leadership conferences, and in the many years since then, I’ve read books, watched and attended seminars, and been a student of leadership my whole life.
I have noticed, though – that so many people don’t understand leadership.
People are often thrust into leadership roles at work, and they jump at the chance to be “in charge” and get more cents added to their per hour paycheck.
I’ve also found that the word leadership – particularly “male leadership” has a bad connotation to many…. when they read “leadership” – they HEAR “dominance.”
I’d like to create some RESOURCES to help men understand leadership – but I’d like your feedback! Please leave some comments on what you think leadership means – or questions you have about leadership – and good or bad experiences with leadership.
THANKS!
-Josh
Calling for “male leadership” is not misogynistic.
When I say, “A man needs to lead his family,” and “Men need to step up into leadership.” I get a lot of anger, resentment, hostility, and vitriol directed my way.
I understand that a lot of the negativity is rooted in experiences with misogynistic tyrants who ruled over their family with a case of beer and a drunken fist.
I also understand that not every family looks the same.
I am not saying that men are somehow “entitled” to “rule” over their families.
I am not saying men need to outrank women. We are n
I think the word “leadership” has a lot of negative connotations attached to it, and I think it’s time to understand that to LEAD is not to DOMINATE.
In my family, my wife and I CO-lead. There are times when I lead her, and times when she leads me.
Leadership is service. It’s responsibility. It’s influence.
It’s a GOOD thing when men embrace this with humility and with a desire to learn how to lead better.
