Richard Kaufman of the Vertical Momentum Podcast is our guest on the Manlihood ManCast. He talks about overcoming some of the darkest moments of his life, and gives hope and encouragement to men.
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I have some good news! Some of you may know about my cataracts, – and the limiting effect it’s had on my vision. For those of you haven’t heard, I’ve had a steady decrease in my vision for a couple of years now, and because of a variety of complications, it took awhile for the doctors to determine the cause.
The surgery is normally simple, but because of my small pupils, there are some extra complications.
The other complication is of my own making. I have not been taking the best care of my body and put some weight back on. Some of you know that I had lost 100 pounds in a year- but I’ve gained back some of that weight. It was my own choices, and I have been paying the price for it with inflammation and struggle. Now, that weight is actually threatening my vision.
When the doctor set my surgery date, I need to have my BMI lowered to a certain percentage in order to minimize the risk of some kind of rupture in my eyes.
Basically, I have to lose 40 pounds before the surgery.
Now, this post has been scheduled ahead – so by the time you’re reading this, I am well on my way toward crushing that goal.
But I am realizing that as I have to put a significant amount of time into meal prep, physical activity and more, I have got to pull back so that I can focus.
Well, a few things. First of all, it means that I’ve got to take some time off from my weekly solo shows that release on Tuesdays. I’ll be back, probably around summer, or maybe sooner. You’ll see a new and improved Josh Hatcher – one most likely without glasses, and one that is a good bit skinnier.
I will continue to release my interview shows. I’ve got several shows recorded and “in the hopper” ready to go out, and a few more interviews scheduled over the next couple weeks. Which means that there will still be episodes of the Manlihood ManCast released weekly – but for now, the focus will be on our interview shows.
It also means that I’ve been challenged. There’s a part of my character that has been week – a chink of my own masculinity that has kept me weaker, and lesser than I should be.
I avoid pain at all costs. And to grow and get stronger (and lose weight) – there is going to be pain. Self Discipline is painful.
And I have learned to comfort my emotions and entertain myself with food that is bad for me. I protect myself from my painful emotions sometimes with sugar and salt and fat and chemicals that taste yummy. And the unwanted side effect is a soft armor around my entire body.
My armor of fat doesn’t protect me, though. In fact, it invites dirty looks and smart-ass remarks, makes my clothes uncomfortable, makes my body off-balance and clumsy, and feeds the internal shame monster that keeps the cycle going.
My pain avoidance doesn’t help me either. Because while I avoid the pain in my muscles and joints from walking, running, lifting, stretching – I’m just causing myself more pain in my joints and muscles.
Now I’ve got a temporary motivator. Lose 40 pounds fast so that my eyes can get fixed. The PAIN of being almost blind has been frightening and frustrating beyond belief.
That’s just a small amount of how much this fat man needs to lose. I’ve lost hundreds of pounds over and over and over again for years.
So this temporary goal has to push beyond. I can’t stay here.
I can’t lead this movement if I’m blind.
And I can’t lead this movement well if I’m living in the sin of a lack of self-control and pain avoidance.
SO.
It’s time. Let’s do this.
Tim Culver was a US Marine Corporal and Specialized Search Dog Trainer – and spent time working with dogs in combat settings. He trained dogs to find explosives while communicating with them over radios, and to run search patterns.
In this conversation, we talk about dogs, we talk about manhood, we talk about mental health, and many other rabbit holes worth listening to.
I’ve known Tim since he was a kid, and I’m proud of him for the man he’s become. This interview was special for me to be able to reconnect with an old friend and hear his stories.
More from Tim Culver: https://www.youtube.com/c/DogScience
25 years of military experience has taught Jay Tiegs a thing or two – and he’s channeling that experience into the kind of coaching that helps people become high performers.
Some of the hardest lessons, Jay learned in the darkest parts of his life, and he talks with Josh Hatcher of Manlihood about clawing his way out of the depths or suicidal depression and into a life that if fullfilling an exciting.
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You can imagine that he’s “seen some stuff.”
But Nole Lilly’s personal traumas were even deeper, and he found himself in a dark place…
Nole currently lives in the mountains of Southern California, with his wife Heather and their 3 children. Nole and Heather have been married for 18 years. He has worked as a fireman with L.A. County Fire for the past 12 years. Prior to that, he served as a United States Army Ranger, deploying multiple times into Iraq and Afghanistan. Nole and Heather have experienced the death of two of their sons and their journey through that loss has shaped much of the people they have become today. Nole has also dealt with post-traumatic stress related to the loss of his sons and his time serving as a Ranger. As a fireman, Nole has continued to live and work in a world where exposure to trauma can be a very regular occurrence. From this experience, Nole felt called to start a podcast where he could share his experiences with others who are working through difficult times in life and also share the struggles and triumphs of other men that he admires.
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A military body has a set of “Core Ops” or “Core Operations” which often includes its mission statement and values, and similar statements.
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Your purpose is really simple. It’s WHY you exist. WHY are you here?
Purpose doesn’t change
It was there before you were born, and it sticks with you for your whole life. Many people get focused on their purpose as a specific thing. Then, when something goes wrong, their identity and purpose are questioned in a moment of crisis.
Putting your mission into words is a powerful act. It sets your intention. In conjunction with your purpose and your vision, it’s the equivalent of getting in the car and plugging in GPS Coordinates. How powerful would your life by if you had that kind of clarity in your destination?
Vision is where you are headed. It’s a goal, with a plan, centered around your purpose and your mission.
Your vision answers the question, “If I continue working toward my mission according to my purpose, where will I be in five to ten years?”
We all have values. Even the unscrupulous among us have values.
To value something is to give it worth. There are things that either knowingly or un-knowingly have worth in our lives. They guide our decision-making. They affect our personal relationships. If we take the time to identify the core of those values, we can recognize them not just as gut-checks or feelings, but rather as guiding principles.
Purpose:
To live a life of love and service to God, my family, and my community.
Mission:
To use my talents and abilities to enrich and lead in the lives my family, my friends, my community, and all of those in my expanding circle of influence.
Vision:
I will live as an ambassador of Christ and lead my family, while I find meaning and value in my work, while building passive income streams, and mentoring and encouraging men and women.
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Represent -Value – Build – Mentor – Encourage
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Purpose:
Because the world needs men to lead in their families and communities, and because so many men have struggled to understand their value, Manlihood exists to help men become better men.
Mission:
The Manlihood Mission is to Educate, Equip, and Entertain Men in an Engaging Way.
Vision:
The Manlihood vision is to create resources to educate and equip men, to foster a thriving community of men, where bonds of brotherhood and accountability form. We seek to help men be better fathers, husbands, leaders, friends. We want to build through Manlihood a financially sustainable architecture that can support itself, but also to incubate ideas and opportunities from within the Manlihood community that support our purpose and mission.
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Andrew Wright sits down with Josh Hatcher to talk about his music, his story, and to encourage men to dream big, make a plan, and then do the work to make it happen.
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Strongman, strength coach, philosopher, and father figure to millions of YouTube followers Elliot Hulse speaks with Josh Hatcher of the Manlihood ManCast.
Modern culture is rejecting masculinity, and that rejection has been orchestrated for quite some time.
Elliott says that Marxist teachings and philosophy have greatly influenced western culture to abandon the idea of the traditional nuclear families, and the fathers place in it.
Elliot talks about the significance of a man’s influence in the home, his own experiences of rejecting his father’s strictness and toughness, only to later appreciate it when he became a father himself.
Looking at the breakdown in modern society and family life, Elliot lays out the similarities with many ancient cultures and their rites of passage, as a boy leaves the world of the mother and joined the atonement of the father.
He may have views on gender that run contrary to the feminist movement, and in fact, may even be a little different from my own, and the views of Manlihood as an organization. He loves and respects women, and in this interview talks about a conversation with his daughter after she found a YouTube video online accusing him of being a misogynist.
He talks about how his Christian faith shapes his views on philosophy, the family, culture, and more, and talks about how his quest for purpose and identity and mentoring others led him back to the Christian faith of his youth.
The message of Elliot Hulse is resonating with folks who want to hear it. Almost 2 million subscribers on his Strength Camp YouTube channel, and almost 900k on his Elliot Hulse YouTube channel. It’s worth giving his message some thought and discussion.
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