Looking for the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with? Tired of being alone? Obviously, I can’t guarantee or promise anything… but I can tell you what mindsets you need to adjust in order to find a good woman.
The first step in finding a good woman has nothing to do with a woman at all. It has to do with yourself. While it sucks to feel alone, and the temptation is to find something to fill that void, we must rise above our feelings to deal with the bigger problem.
If you want to find a good woman, you must make sure that you are the kind of man that a good woman wants.
Take some time to do some honest self-evaluation.
Are you taking care of your body? (Bathing, Grooming, Eating right, Working out, etc.)
Women aren’t going to be attracted to a slob. I’m not saying you have to look like Andrew Garfield. I’m just saying that if you expect to find a woman, she doesn’t want to smell oniony arm-pits, kiss brown teeth, or be with a guy that will eventually weigh 600 pounds.
Are you investing in your self-improvement?
What books / blogs / podcasts / etc are you ingesting in order to grow as a better man? What skills are you honing? What steps are you taking to grow?
What kind of relationships do you have?
Are you cultivating good relationships with your family? Do you have baby-mama drama? Do you have a string of exes who hate you? Do you have good friends in your life who help you improve, and who have your back? Do you hang around a bunch of low-life’s who treat you or others badly?
What kind of job do you have?
While we may life in an age of the working woman, I am convinced that most women do want to know that a partner will be able to provide her economic security. Your job doesn’t have to be a job that makes you rich, but is it a secure job? Does it provide for your needs? Is it heading in the direction of your career, or at least providing the cash you need to build your future?
What hobbies do you have?
Do these hobbies relieve stress, or create stress? Are they productive hobbies, or passive hobbies? Do they allow room for a woman to join you? Do they help recharge you?
I have found that if you work on yourself first, you’ll find satisfaction in your own personal growth, and then have less need of a woman to satisfy you, first of all. But you’ll also be prepared and better equipped to raise the caliber of the kind of woman that would be interested in you.
Take the time to build your own character, skills, career, and do it for you – not for her. That makes you more a more attractive and competent mate.