Andrew G. Wright Sr. is the father of three amazing kids and husband to his beautiful wife, Carmen. Andrew works as an insurance salesman and authors his own self-published books available on Amazon.com. Andrew has a BS in Business Administration and a MBA in Management and Marketing.
With a passion to help others because of his own life’s setbacks and trials, Andrew caters his books to assisting his audience in getting out of their own way by building confidence, self-esteem, and spiritual wholeness through Jesus Christ. Andrew gives personal perspective in his battles with depression, a weak self-image, self-esteem issues, and gives you concrete solutions to overcome the lies we tell ourselves in these areas of our lives. He is a firm believer that each of us has an amazing gift to offer this world. He is extremely excited and eager to help his readers achieve a life of fulfillment, inner strength, and to pursue a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
Visit his website at : http://andrewwrightguru.wix.com/lifechange
Well, here is the thing. You may just be introverted, but when the opportunities to become social arise – that does not mean that you have to hide, cower, or be uncomfortable.
What if there was a way that you could address all these things? You may not desire to be the “life of the party,” but you probably do desire to have some sort of comfort level in a group setting, social setting, or being out with friends? Even family time might become bothersome – I have seen it and it broke my heart. Luckily, I was able to reach out to that family member and assure that person their place in the family – but for some, its not so easy. Some of you may not have someone to “come to your side” in those times.
Here I am – I am here. Let me help you.
How can I help?
I have lost virtually all of my hearing – I wear a hearing aid. For some of you – you think glasses is a “weird thing” try having people ask about your hearing every two seconds you are out at a party. Try confronting a bully in a social setting who is being a complete prick to you because you cant hear them (men or a women) – get passed that.
Yes, I understand – I could easily shut up and go in a shell and call it being “introverted.” I dont buy it. I wont accept it. I look around and I see the person everyone likes is the person that could walk around the room and strike up a conversation. No, not to say something, to listen. That person is the life of the party, not the loud mouth. The guy that can walk up, look someone in the eye, ask a question and get a positive response – that is the guy that “gets it” – he is the life of a party.
No matter who you are, introvert, extrovert, whatever – you can get someone to talk about themsevles. Its easy!
My program will help you understand that. “How to Talk to Anyone” really is a masterpiece of incredible social skills! ALL LEARNED IN THE FIELD! All designed to work in the extreme conditions – wearing a hearing aid in a loud bar room, being ridiculed, etc (I wrote the story above). Its all tested! You can be assured it works.
Stop making excuses. You can master this with easy application of the book principles.
Best of luck and KEEP TRYING!
You can purchase “How to Talk to Anyone” by clicking the book below.
There are so many different ways to enter a conversation and start a conversation with someone you want to speak with that the options are unlimited. This shouldnt make you feel hopeless, but hopeful!
Conversations can go so many different ways, but you can steer them to go in a positive direction – and ultimately a direction that BENEFITS you, not hurt you.
Here are 3 Tips in starting a conversation with ANYONE of any sex, race, and creed.
1. Have an opener ready for the given situation
An opener? What is that?
An opener is a simple way that you are going to enter the conversation that displays you have social confidence and that there is a bit of intelligence behind the curtain – that someone “is at home” so to speak.
Some are doing this without even knowing what they are doing. My wife will do it all the time when we are out at the store. She is so good at talking to random strangers. She will see someone in the medical aisle, use the OBSERVATION approach (without knowing what she is going) and say something like “Oh, my son just had a cold and it works fantastic! Are your little ones getting this cold too?” Bam – my wife is locked for the next 15-20 minutes. What did she do besides the observation opener? Read number 2.
2. Quickly make the conversation/question about them
At this phase of the conversation, now is not the time to be asking questions that will get one word answers. Those come off as awkward and will create dead space. Dead space = bad. Dead space shows you lack social status and you are TRYING to hard. Having them talk about themselves transitions that. What is really funny was when I was working this stuff out, I would ask a one word answer question, then try to follow it up with an observational question to TRY to get them talking – forget it! You will lose interest almost immediately with one word answer type questions.
Want to be the best conversationalist? Learn how to get someone to talk about themselves.
3. Listen and Respond.
There was some truth about dating, relationships, and conversations that you could have taken away from the Will Smith movie, HITCH. That is when you are engaging in a conversation “listen and respond.” I know that sounds so simple, but it is so hard to do. Listen to what they are saying in the conversation, then respond intellegently, sarcastically, or intrigued. You can really demonstrate your personality in your responses as well. Getting them to laugh will draw instant likability as well. Dont be afraid to share your emotions about a certain topic – mirror them to see what is going to be appropriate – if they are sad – respond/mirror with sympathy. If they are excited – be excited! Mirroring is highly effective and will definitely help you increase your likability in your conversation.
3.5 Have fun.
This one goes along with anything you are working on within yourself – Have fun – for goodness sake have fun, would ya? Lighten up. You get shot down, or it feels awkward – turn and smile – even laugh about a fail. Tell your friends and if they dont pick on you about it – make new friends that will laugh WITH you. Go out and have some fun – this world is too big to be serious all the time.
Until next time!
Andrew G. Wright Sr.
You can get more helpful tips from Andrew in his book, “How To Talk To Anyone!” Andrew shares his wisdom of conversations that he has learned while in the field of life. Struggling with a disability, Andrew had to pay extra attention to conversations and social metrics – if anyone can help you with social anxiety and talking with others – Andrew can.
I write to you on this blog and through my books as a form of communication. My communication is simple and direct. In addition, it is filled with personal experiences.
Perhaps I should give you a brief history of myself.
I am hard of hearing and communication is very difficult for me. I wear a hearing aid (that unfortunately only works half the time if I am facing people.) Over the last 20 years, I lost some 70% of my hearing abilities through natural causes and will tell you it has only made my life better! Thats right, it made it better. I have come to realize my purpose on this earth is to give people hope and to provide information to better improve THEIR lives through my struggles.
I have put out several books on self esteem – and most recently, “How to Talk to Anyone” – the advice is my own. I provide you useful tips and tricks to make you FLOURISH in society because you have all your senses. My tricks are not for someone with a disability – but battle tested in the battlefield of life. As you know, it doesnt matter if you have everything or little – this world and society could care a less if you succeed. There are no gimmie points shelled out to me because I am hard of hearing – just sets me back as an obstacle.
So – I ask you to read these books and know this knowledge and wisdom comes from years in the field of life. Learn them – utilize the techniques and you will succeed. I can tell you they work! I am a successful salesman and found the women of my dreams. I have three amazing kids and more self confidence than I could have ever dreamed I would have.
You can have it and so much more, folks! Read the books and apply to your life. You will see a drastic change.
SELF -ESTEEM – 10 Things You Can Do to DRASTICALLY Improve Your Confidence and Love Yourself
Available on Amazon for only 99c!!!
Hello all! I just wanted to let you know about a book I wrote that is currently being offered for free till the end of the day.
Its called, “How to Talk to Anyone”
As a person that is hard of hearing, I have come to learn some tricks of the trade in communicating with virtually anyone in an effective manner. I have been able to win people over, start random conversations, and be extremely confident that the interaction is going to go favorable.
If you are looking to improve your skills, I would love for you to take advantage of this book and the free promotion. I have included real world scenarios as well.
Get approach anxiety with the opposite sex? Male or female? I have answers.
Have a problem in communicating with co-workers or people of authority? I have the answer and experience as a business to business salesman to help you out.
How about those weird situations where there is dead space after you ask an initial question? Can you say “Big gulps, huh? WELP see ya later!” Type of scenario? I can help you move passed that and into them talking about themselves so much that they look at you as the “best listener they have ever met.”
Take advantage of this. I would love your feedback as well! Thanks guys!
Download the book here! Click on the book cover below, or simply copy and paste the link into the browser!
Good afternoon guys! I just released another book called, “Mocha In The Morning.”
I am really excited about this book because its a 21 day journey geared to help you grow in faith in Jesus, and to hopefully help my readers to understand that there is POWER when your on the right team – team Jesus.
In addition, I have made all my books available for only 99c via Amazon Kindle.
You can view the book topics, titles and links through my personal page (just so I dont have to link every single one of them).
I hope you take advantage and I look forward to hearing your feedback
I’m not sure if you have ever done something as a kid that you loved so much – only to grow older and not do it anymore. Now that you don’t do it anymore, you look back and see that you REALLY miss it and want to do it again so bad if you had the resources to.
For me, that was baseball – taking the mound of a competitive baseball game to be exact.
Well, I recently wrote a post on my page that I wanted to share with you folks here.
I was, and still am a baseball nut.
I love this game. I grew up to love the game – I grew up to play the game effectively – and I grew to be pretty darn good at it.
I recently joined the Bradford Badgers. It felt absolutely to amazing to be a part of the game once again.
Hearing the “pop” of the gloves. The “clank” of the bat. It was just baseball again.
Looking back over my life, I just can not BELIEVE that I lost something I love because of no self-esteem. You see when I was in high school, it was a transition phase for me. It was a phase where insecurities are always high, but for me – it was a bit more dramatic (at least in my head).
My freshmen year, I was told that I would be wearing hearing aids the rest of my life. If you thought eye glasses were tough to wear – try wearing hearing aids! Talk about a wake up call. I felt everyone was staring at my ears. I felt there were people trying to talk to me and I couldnt hear them. I felt completely overwhelmed and vulnerable.
I don’t blame my ears for much, but I will blame it for self-esteem issues. THEN I will blame myself for not battling through it. You see, if I had known THEN, what i know NOW – there is no doubt in my mind that I would have been able to play baseball in college – possibly semi-pro. Who knows? I will NEVER know because I let it slip. I stopped pushing. I stopped going 110%. I gave up on myself.
I realize how much i robbed myself – how much I robbed the game I loved so much. I say NEVER again will this happen in my life.
If you have done this – don’t let your self-esteem run you. RUN IT! Say NEVER AGAIN! You may not get the chance to take it back later in life..it might be too late.
At 31, my run to the big leagues is PROBABLY over – like, 1 in 1 Billion (SO YOUR SAYIN THERES A CHANCE!). I could be like THE ROOKIE and get a shot at the bigs…who knows where God is leading (HA! That would be awesome, but probably not again – there could be a ball club out there that would take someone that runs an 8.4 40 yard dash, right?. It could just be the Bradford Badgers and I am completely OK with that as well – I feel extremely blessed to have this opportunity. I get to play the game I love at a high level.
(Me breaking out of “retirement”)
For more on Self Esteem Help – check out this book below. I have included a chapter for you to read to see if it would be something you might be interested in. The link is also available by clicking the book cover.
Chapter 3 from Self Help 15: 15 ways You Can Instantly Improve Your Self Esteem
Being prepared to receive that you have been asking for is necessary for actually receiving it.
How does that work? It is a “faith without works is dead” type of thing.
You want to be more self-confident, you want to be attracting a more positive self so we need to prepare for the end state that you are trying to create.
You see the biggest mistake that is stuck on autopilot when you are in low self-esteem is that it is negative thinking and lack of positive reinforcements for future success. We might do well for a while, but later on we are EASILY sucked back into the negative self-image that we developed with low self-esteem.
The goal here is to start preparing for the better you to come through. This is a demonstration of faith on your part. Here are some ways you can prepare for that new you:
Clean up your act
I notice that when I want to set a new motion in gear, it always makes me feel better when I start by cleaning up my space at work, home and personal space that I have. Being organized and getting my act together always makes me feel instantly accomplished. An hours’ worth of work boosts my spirits, and my house, office, and personal spaces are clean.
Perhaps you haven’t wanted to even look in the mirror lately. It IS one of the most deceptive things in the universe when you are in a state of lacking self-esteem, however, we are setting in a new motion. From this day forward, that mirror will be cleaned and ready to work in your favor. You will be able to look straight into that mirror from this point forward and say – “that guy/gal in there is pretty freakin awesome!” Start your day today – and end it with a declaration right in that mirror.
Clear out your closet/dresser drawers
Make way for the new you. You are going to be working on your image and there might be some things you can get rid of. It’s time to cut ties with your over worn sweat pants, those socks with holes in them, the old track jacket from high school.
Let Go of the Past
Is there something from this period of your life that is just hanging around? Cut ties with it! Break up put you in this mess – BURN THE PICTURES and send the memories packing. Clear out your facebook.
Important message about this part. If you are cleaning out and burning things up – let it go. I say let it go because later on, when you least expect it, those memories or pictures may just magically show up again. You need to just move past it all together. Let this be a ceremony of just moving on. The burning up the past and moving forward. I can’t tell you how many times I did this for jobs, for old girlfriends, old friendships, and lost loved ones. It always worked. One last time to reflect, but it won’t affect my emotions any longer. I am bigger than that and stronger than the past. My future is so much brighter!
I have a new found hobby that started about 3 years ago. I LOVE growing a vegetable garden! It started with a small area of land – and its now grown into 3 areas of my land where I am growing vegetables and now planting fruit trees.
I have also gotten into raising chickens for eggs as well – but this is a different hobby, but trust me it will relate.
You see the process is – you put the seeds in the ground – and they grow into beautiful plants – right?
I got to thinking this morning – why don’t we PLANT our ideas, our dreams, our visions – like we do plants? You see we put a plant in the ground and EXPECT them to turn into beautiful roses, we expect them to turn into a mass amount of Zucchini (YUM) or Pumpkins (YAY!) tomatoes, apples, peaches, oranges – whatever it is your planting.
You are expecting a CROP! You want and expect your plants to respond to the water you feed it. You EXPECT Miracle Gro to work! Why else would you care if it died because you didn’t water it – or why else would you spend the amounts of money you do on fertilizer, potting soil, plant food, etc.
Lesson is this. Whatever you are sowing in life – EXPECT it to grow! Expect it to be bountiful! Expect it to be better than you expected!
As I mentioned in the book, Self Help 15 Ways To Drastically Improve Your Self Esteem (check it out here) you need to start somewhere. Set a small goal today that when you plant/sow something in your life that you are going to live at a level of a HIGHER expectancy.
Check out SELF HELP 15 Ways You Can Instantly Improve Your Self Esteem by clicking on the book cover below
In my book, Self Help: 12 Things You Can Do To Drastically Change Your Life (available here) I discussed the topic of changing the world, one act of random kindness at a time.
Now, no matter where you are at in life, you can perform this task because
A. It doesn’t take money (all the time)
B. It doesn’t take much time
C. There is very little effort on your part.
That last one is a head scratcher. But the truth is – No, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to change the world.
A. It doesn’t take money.
An act of kindness doesn’t take money all the time. Its pretty simple really. When was the last time you:
Held the door for an elderly couple walking into the store? And don’t get smart with me and talk about the time you cut in front of the elderly couple to “hold the door open” when the “door” was the automatic sliding door at WalMart. Seriously.
When was the last time you, with a smile on your face, said to the cashier pumping your gas “hey, thank you so much! I greatly appreciate that you pumped my gas this morning.” Let’s be honest, before I took a step back, I wasn’t fully appreciating the fella pumping my gas at the gas station. I would hand him my card, not look him in the eye to tell him what I needed, and would dive into an email or text message that I felt was more important than showing this guy some appreciation. You want to see a drastic change? Wow.
What I did was this – I decided to treat him like a human – which he is and should have been treated correctly the entire time, I know – and I saw a person change instantly just because I set the tone of that interaction with him. Some people feel its not their responsibility to set the tone – I have to argue that point. We all have a responsibility for the greater good of humanity. If that means to make sure someone feels appreciated – and your the next man up in the social interaction – take a initiative and set the tone. Yes, it is your responsibility. Live at a higher level – not just at the level that “everyone else is living at”
Taking initiative doesnt take money – it takes character.
B. It doesn’t take much time
The example above didn’t take long at all – I sat there getting gas.
Holding the door open for the elderly couple – didn’t take long. Well, longer than it would if I held the door open for a young adult, but you get what I mean.
C. There is very little effort on your part.
Now, I spent money this morning blessing someone, but it took very little effort on my part. I was at a coffee shop and this older lady walked up behind me to get in line. She started to grow frustrated with the new girl behind the counter trying to figure out the gift card system. I only found this funny because, that older lady didnt realize I was turning around to give her the card. The girls at the register didnt know either and were scrambling to please me when their machine was not responding to their requests to get the gift card.
They gave me the card and were really apologetic about the wait. That is when I did something completely unexpected and turned to the lady behind me and said “I hope you enjoy your breakfast this morning – it is on me.”
The shock and awe in the faces of the people behind the counter and the old lady was incredible. She was so appreciative she tracked me down to give me a hug and to just say “thank you.”
I can’t replace those moments. I don’t know all the dynamics of what happened this morning – but I do know that the world changed for the better in that moment and it didnt take much time – and it sure was easy 🙂
For more great insight on how you can change the world, please pick up your copy of Self Help 12 by following the link here –